Nice to meet you. Can I add you on Facebook?

Okay, so you are at your friend’s party and you just met this awesome guy. You are having a great time until you go home and check your Facebook account. That’s right, not only he added you as a friend but he has already liked 12 of your photos and commented on half of them. Creepy. Or is it?

According to the Urban Dictionary Facebook stalking means “a covert method of investigation using facebook.com. Good for discovering a wealth of information about people you don’t actually know”.

It seems strange that nowadays it’s normal when you meet someone for the first time to get his Facebook and send him a request. Back in the days, people used to exchange their phone numbers or e-mails. I guess technology has changed it all. Stalking is indeed a problem for a lot of people who are trying to overcome a past relationship or partner. James Hambrick, PhD, a therapist at the Columbia University Clinic for Anxiety and Related Disorders, explains that people facing this problem have the idea of, ‘If I keep thinking about this person from different angles, if I keep taking in information about them, then I don’t get upset that they aren’t in my life anymore. Because in certain sense, they are.” You can get so much information from someone’s Facebook wall- their new possessions, favorite food or music, where they are at the moment and many more. Also, it can be a miserable and misleading experience. A lot of people are actually lying on social media to increase their profile. For instance, they might be chilling in their bed and in the same time tagging themselves in the newest night club. Occasionally, this can make us feel like our friends are more successful than us, which usually is just a delusion. Here is a funny song with reference to that:

In conclusion, for whatever reason you stalk someone, make sure it doesn’t take all of your time and it’s not harmful for you, your mental health and the other person. It would actually be more helpful if you go on a date with you crush and get the information first hand rather than checking his ‘wall’ 20 times a day.

As Ph.D. Susan Weinschenk states in her book 100 Things: Every Designer Needs to Know about People, after all we are by nature social animals. And even though online interactions are considered social interactions, real life communication is always the better option.


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